Networking-Our Biggest Fears

For a lot of people the thought of networking frightens them to death.  Why are so many afraid to network?  For some the Networking3idea of striking up a conversation with a complete stranger cripples them.  We don’t think we have anything to say, we are not going to be interesting to them, we may say something stupid, and other misconceptions.  Because of these misconceptions we don’t network.

Keep in mind everyone you are meeting is doing the same thing you are, making connections with new people.  They may have the same fears as you.  So what do you do to overcome your fears?  Take it 1% at a time.  Go to a networking event with the goal of talking to just three people you don’t know.  OK, sounds easy, what will you say to them?  When you meet someone for the first time introduce yourself and ask them what they do.  Now you become the active listener taking in everything they say.  When they ask you what you do you have an advantage because you just learned a lot about this person who is no longer a stranger.  Asking them questions gains you insight into what is important to them and as always we should be looking for ways you can help them.  Come away with a business card and knowledge of a new found friend.  The next step is to call them and set up a one on one meeting to explore how you could help each other.  That takes us to the next fear, the follow up.

From my expNetworking2experiences this has to be the biggest problem for networkers.  Why don’t we pick up the phone and call our new found friend to schedule a one on one?  The fear of rejection.  Let me ask you something, if this person does reject you what have you lost?  Nothing, you have gained knowledge that your new found friend is not in the proper place for you to progress in a relationship.  That doesn’t mean to get angry and throw away their business card, it means that you need to find a way to keep in touch with them even if it is just on social media.  When the time is right you will make the connection.

Keep in mind that success is in the follow-up.  For every new found friend we make how many new connections can be made.  These are the people that will be eager to recommend people your way and you will do the same for them.  They themselves may never be a customer or partner with you but in the end they will generate a lot of contacts for you and you for them.

So the challenge of the wNetworking1eek is to get out of your box every day and talk to at least one person and do at least one face to face meetings.  The only way to overcome a fear is to face them.  Have a great and productive week.

Networking: What Is It?

Networking1I did some research in April using social media to solicit some ideas from my friends to answer this question.  I confronted this question honestly because I am not very good at networking and I have a lot of work to do to improve.  Knowing that I am not alone I decided to do some research and writing.  I hope this series of articles helps someone improve as a professional networker.

Networking, everyone does it every day of their lives.  Networking starts as young children making friends and evolves to business people looking to develop business relationships.  The question is, do we even know what we are doing?  I spent over 30 years in management and sales.  I have connected with many different kinds of people for many different reasons.  Nobody ever told me I was networking.  I never took a class in college to teach me how to do it.  I just did it.

So what then is networking? Here is what some of my friends have told me:Networking2

“Networking is connecting with like-minded people, generally in the same line of business, for the purpose of strengthening and growing themselves, advancing their business or career” Bridgette Goldstein

“It’s about creating partnerships and developing relationships on both a professional and personal level for a common goal.” Cynthia Flores

“Networking is about developing professional relationships on a personal level.” Bill Wade

According to, Networking is defined as creating a group of acquaintances and associates and keeping it active through regular communications for mutual benefit.  Networking is based on the question “How can I help? and not with “What can I get.”

Let’s look at this definition of Networking.  First, how do we create a group of acquaintances and associates?  We have so many resources available to us today that will get you in front of people on a regular basis.  One of our largest resources is Social Media, we have numerous Social Media sites to utilize.  We also have community organizations such as the Chamber of Commerce, Women In Networking and the Rotary Club.  We need to be using these resources properly and consistently (that will be another article).  We can’t go to a meeting once and expect people to start recommending you to others.  We need to be consistent in our attendance and our message.  Follow up is so key to our success and we really don’t do it well (more to follow).

Now let’s look at the last part of the definition: Networking is based on the question “How can I help?” and not with “What can I get.”  When we look to give first we will get even more in return.  Do you take this approach or are you the person that can’t wait to tell us everything about themselves at a networking event or on Social Media.  The bottom line is that we are here to be givers and that should be our focus in all areas of our lives.  We may not get sales but we will be rewarded.


On a closing note, have you ever looked back on your life and noticed how so many things you have experienced are connected to who and where you are today?  Nothing is an accident.

Have a greet week, the next article will look at our biggest fears in networking and the area of follow up.  Feel free to comment and share this article and my blog Living Life On Purpose.

The Importance of Blood Sugar Stabilization

Lynda and I are in the business of helping people with something extremely personal, their health.  We feel we can help most people improve their nutrition and manage their weight by making some life style changes.  We both have done the program ourselves and have lost almost 40 pounds combined over the last year and more importantly kept the weight off.

Two years ago I decided to learn more about nutrition and the connection of blood sugar stabilization and weight management.  I took a course with Venice Nutrition and became a Certified Nutrition Coach. VN Coach - Dennis Dennehy Last year we opened our Wellness Club in Long Beach and a short time later we opened the Downey club.  We did this to be available to more people who need our kind of assistance.

Most of our training has come from Venice Nutrition and Mark Macdonald, the founder of Venice Nutrition.  Mark is extremely accessible to our group and we have had the fortune to be part of many personal trainings sessions over the last couple of years.  Mark is a best-selling author, Body Confidence, and soon to be available Why Kids Make You Fat.  He is a regular on CNN, Dr. Oz and HLN TV.  He is most definitely an expert.

What we have learned is centered on the concept of blood sugar stabilization.  We had been familiar with this because of Lynda being a type 1 diabetic.  We did not completely understand how blood sugar stabilization connected to weight management.  Now we get it.

When your blood sugar is between 80-120 you are in balance and your body becomes a fat burning machine.  The key is to keep it in balance because when you go low or high your body stops burning fat and starts to store it. VN Marketing - Blood Sugar Chart

What happens when you’re on a diet and you are restricting your food intake?  Your blood sugar drops causing your body to go into starvation mode and store everything you eat as fat.  That is why diets just do not work in the long term.

A lot of people do not eat all day and then have that one large meal at the end of the day causing our blood sugar to rise.  Because of the rise in blood sugar your body stores everything you eat as fat and burns muscle for energy.  This will slow your metabolism even more because muscle burns fat, if you have less muscle you will burn less fat.

So how do you keep your blood sugar stable?  By eating in 3’s.  pfcWe need to eat often during the day starting with eating breakfast within 1 hour of waking up.  Think about this, we have slept for 6-8 hours and we have had nothing to eat and our blood sugar is low.  We need to feed ourselves first thing in the morning.  We should then eat every 3-4 hours.  I love this, I get to eat all day.  At first I felt like I was eating way more food than I was normally eating.  This is a struggle for some people to grasp, we tell them to eat more to lose weight and it works.

Now we have to eat in the correct combination.  Always have carbs, protein and fat with every meal.  Yes every meal.  How much?  Women get 3oz of protein and carb and a little fat and guys get 5oz of protein and carbs and a little fat.  This takes about a week to get used to then you will find your body will start telling you when it has been 3 hour since you last ate.  At the beginning it is wise to use a scale.  I still use one.

Remember this is not a diets, this is the un-diet.  This will work for you forever.

Soon I will go into more detail about the program and you can check it out on our Core website and learn more.  Let us know if you have any questions.  Later

Almond Crusted Chicken Tenders

This is an easy dish that works in the Ignite and Thrive Phase.Almond Crusted Chicken Tenders

I serve this with sauteed red peppers and onions over lentils.


5 chicken tenders

1 cup almonds grated

Lemon pepper no salt seasoning per taste.


Season the chicken tenders with lemon pepper.  Place the chicken tenders in the grated almonds turn to make sure all sides are coated.  Place the chicken tenders on a baking sheet that has been sprayed with olive oil.  Bake the chicken tenders in a 380 oven for 40 minutes, turning half way.

Serves 2

Red Lentils with Red Peppers and Onions

Lentils with red peppers and onions

I have discovered lentils and find that they are very tasty and go well with most vegetables.

This will work in the Ignite and Thrive Phases


2 Cups chicken stock

1 Cup red lentils

1 tsp. Olive oil

½ Yellow or Red onion, sliced

½ Red Pepper, sliced

Season with no salt Lemon Pepper to taste


Prepare lentils by heating 2 cups of chicken stock to a boil in a medium sauce pan.  Add the red lentils, stir and allow to boil for five minutes.  Stir and reduce to a simmer until the lentils are tender.  Remove from the heat.

To prepare the vegetables, heat the oil in a medium skillet over medium heat.  Add the onion and red pepper cooking till soft.  Season with lemon pepper to taste.

Serve with the peppers and onions over the lentils.  For heat use some chilies as well.

BBQ Chicken

BBQ Chicken

This is not your typical BBQ chicken smothered in sauce or burnt to a crisp.  This is a perfectly cooked, juicy, delicious BBQ chicken.  Now I will give you my secret to make this happen.  It starts with large breast of chicken with the bone in and skin on.  I know we have all been told to get rid of the skin but just wait and you will understand.

Now season that beautiful chicken breast by brushing each with a little olive oil and then using some salt, black pepper, garlic powder, and onion powder on the skin.

Next, get your grill smoking hot on high temperature.  Rub some olive oil on your BBQ grates and place the breast bone side down on the grill.  Now the secret, No matter what you see, how you feel, regardless of who tells you otherwise, do not turn the breasts over.  Just let them cook on one side only.  If you get a lot of smoke just open the grill for a few seconds.  If yours starts to flame, move the breast to a different position on the grill, still skin side up.

Your results will be the most beautiful BBQ chicken breast you have ever cooked.  They will be brown and crunchy on the skin side and juicy and tender on the inside.  How do you know when they are done?  When they reach your desired color of brown and crunchiness on the skin they are done.

Let the chicken breast rest before slicing in half to serve.


4 chicken breast, bone in and skin on


Black pepper

Garlic powder

Onion powder

Olive oil


Turmeric and Cumin Rubbed Chicken Breast

Turmeric and Cumin Rubbed Chicken Breast

I love the look and flavor of turmeric.  This spice turns everything a lovely yellow color and ads unbelievable flavor.  Combined with the cumin this spice rub combination takes a simple skinless chicken breast and fills it with fantastic flavor.  As with all poultry, please do not cook it to death, it should be juicy and tender not made into a hockey puck.



1 tsp. turmeric

1 tsp. cumin

1 pinch salt

1 chicken breast, boneless and skinless


Mix the turmeric, cumin, and salt then rub the mixture all over the chicken breast.  Place the breast in a baking dish then in a 375 oven.  Cook for about 40 minutes or until the juices run clear.  Remove from the oven and let rest before slicing.  Serve with oven roasted potatoes.